So backing
away from politics and entering a more realistic sense of the world and a very
impactful one at that. What is happening in our urban schools? What are our
children being subjected to? I can answer that. Bullying and a lot of it.
I
just finished watching ‘CyberBully’
from ABC Family and it is one of the most impactful films on my life. It actually
relates to my life in more ways than one because the victim was aspiring to be
a journalist and she wrote poetry. She was a blonde haired, blue- eyed girl who
had a successful and gracious life ahead of her and she nearly lost all of it
because of words. Because she had no way out. Because of one person’s arrogant
and narcissistic attitude towards her and who wanted to take revenge on her
average life. She also had everything a normal girl would want and she felt she
couldn’t enjoy her blessings because of other’s opinions and jealousy.
I was in the same boat.
I had everything at my feet and I was aspiring to be a writer as well. I wanted
to be a blogger and share my past experiences with the world and inspire others
so that they could overcome any obstacle they faced in life. But, I wasn’t
bullied because of social media or even through social media. I was bullied
from a face-to-face value. It seemed as if whatever I did as an individual was
not good enough for anybody and that I needed to be somebody else to be
accepted by my colleagues. But, changing for others doesn’t do anything but
make you look desperate. And now, that I look back on those turbulent times I
can see that I had lost my way and that I wasn’t being true to who I was.
Though most do not see this bullying can lead individuals down the wrong path
and make them visualize a reality that doesn’t exist. It makes the victim
blindsided by what is actually in front of them and it can sometimes get so bad
that they don’t see who they really are. They see what the bullies and the world
want them to see and feel about themselves. It’s sickening. It’s frightening. I’ve
been there. But, that’s the main reason for this posting.
I never called
attention to the bullying I witnessed because I was there myself and I didn’t
think my words would speak volume. But, if the media didn’t care about these
issues a movie like this one wouldn’t have been made and we wouldn’t hear
stories of such magnitude in newspapers or on internet news sites. I am calling
attention to it now that I have some empowerment to share from my experience.
Bullies are cowards who use their insecurity to criticize others. Bullies can
be anywhere and they can say anything they feel necessary to bring someone
down. But the victims are stronger because they have the power to end it. They have
the power to speak; they have a voice. And though sometimes voices are not
heard, they are remembered by actions.